Help me, I’m a snap addict!

I’ve recently started using Snapchat. Yes I know, a little behind the times but I feel quite proud of my ‘snapping’, as they say.

I have had Snapchat for a while now but never really used it. Until one day at my new job, the young girls (okay, they are 26 and 23, which makes them younger than me, which makes them ‘young’) were going on and on about it. I had massive FOMO! So I got on board.

This is when my obsession began.

Since this day, I am constantly on Snapchat. Waiting for snaps from friends, sending random snaps to friends (none of the naughty kind either, in case you were wondering). And the filters!! It’s like Christmas every day when the new filters appear.

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Filters, so many filters

The amount of time I spend on Snapchat is possibly at embarrassment levels. Do I not have anything better to do you ask? Of course I do. I have a lot of work to do, cleaning, cooking, real human interaction, but why would I want to do any of that, when I can make myself look like a puppy dog! 

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Who wouldn’t want to send a ‘snap’ of them as a puppy!

My priorities may need adjusting.

I never thought I would be someone who actually was addicted to Snapchat, but I guess it can happen to anyone. Plus if I’m honest, after turning 30 I am really trying to still be ‘cool’ and ‘hip’, which saying those two words proves I am not. 

So to you all I say ‘hi, my name’s Jane and I’m a Snap addict’. Luckily most of my friends are to, so we all snap each other while enjoying a little wine (between snap friends).

Cheers,

Jane

P.S Using the term ‘snap’ does not come naturally to me. I feel like an 80 yr old saying ‘YOLO’ but hey, I’m going with it. 

Turning 30

I turned 30 yesterday.

Just let that sink in. 30, the big 3.0. I had told myself in the lead up to this birthday that I was fine, not worried, not big deal. Yet so many times I found myself sitting on the couch (often with a glass of wine), starting to panic and eventually the tears would flow. I felt I had achieved nothing in my 30 years of living and it was now too late to do anything about it.

Then, the day before my 30th birthday, my cousin died of cancer. He was 30 years old.

Suddenly, me thinking I had achieved ‘nothing’ with my life was not only irrelevant but it was the complete and utter crap (to be frank). The death of my amazing, kind, funny cousin made me realise that life isn’t about having done stuff by a certain age. It isn’t about doing what society says you should do by a certain age (think marriage, kids, and mortgage).

No, it’s about being happy and living in the moment. Okay, that’s not exactly a new revelation but it hit me and it hit me hard. I have achieved a great deal in a short amount of time and I need to start appreciating that. I have a great new job in the field I have strived to be in. My partner is my best friend, soul mate and love of my life. I have the most amazing friends and family and most importantly, I am HAPPY.

To me, being happy, genuinely happy, is such an achievement and one I am so proud of. I don’t need to be obsessed, worried, and paranoid about a number. My age, my weight, my salary – these numbers don’t define me. My happiness and gratitude define me.

Don’t get me wrong, I have gone out and made any huge changes with my life (it’s been a day) but I want to make changes and keep improving on this new found freedom.

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So yes, another random blog post (way too many months after my last) but sometimes life smacks you in the face and the only way to deal is to write!

To finish, I hope happiness finds you all and you can all enjoy a little wine between friends.

Cheers,

Jane

I need a hobby!

I haven’t written a post for a few months now. No real reason that I can use as an good excuse, more many bad excuses – lazy, went on holiday, can’t find motivation.

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That last point is what has prompted me to write this post. Lately I have been feeling very unmotivated to do anything. I don’t know if it’s post holiday blues or I just feel like me life has come to a stand still.

When I really think about it, that just seems crazy. As mentioned, I’ve just been on a 4 week holiday to the UK, I recently moved house and I bought a brand new car. For most people, this would be more than enough to shake things up. For me, it’s done nothing.

I guess the holiday was a huge event in my life as I had been dreaming of heading to the UK for years. To finally go and see it in all it’s glory was amazing.

The new car was exciting but the shine has pretty much worn off. Now I’m just left with the extra costs involved that I previously didn’t have… petrol, rego etc..

The moving part was more a hassle than an exciting. My partner and I rent our home (for now) and were told by our agent that the owners wanted to move back in. We could have been real jerks and told them we weren’t moving until our lease was up in December but we aren’t like that. So we found a new rental and moved a couple of weeks ago. It has kind of stuffed up our plans to be honest. We had planned to buy our own home at the end of next year, when our lease was up for the second year. Now we will be faced with the decision to buy or rent again in the middle of next year. On top of that, moving into another rental, paying someone else’s mortgage is starting to play on my nervous. I’m at a point in my life where I want to own my own home. I want to be able to paint walls if I think they need it. I don’t want to have to panic every time we put a tiny little mark on a wall. I guess it’s every ones dream to own their own home, so I know I’m not alone. It just can get you down at times.

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So basically, even with all these things happening, I still can’t find the motivation to enjoy it all. I just feel something is lacking and I have no idea what. So I’m thinking of starting a hobby. A real, time consuming hobby. Don’t get me wrong, I find plenty to do (go out for dinner, enjoy a little wine between friends) but I want something that is consistent and fulfilling. I have no idea what said hobby will be yet, that part I’m still investigating. In fact, it could very well be writing this blog a lot more often (here’s hoping!). But even if I do start writing more, I think I want something else to occupy my mind. It might be volunteering or something crafty. Time will tell and I will be sure to keep you updated!

I do just want to say that whilst this post sounds a little negative, it’s not all doom and gloom. I really do love my life and am blessed with some amazing people! Sometimes it’s just good to get the negativity out!

Cheers,

Jane

Promotion? …Okay!

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When I started this new job, I had a goal of being promoted within 12 months, I did it in 6! I got the news yesterday when my boss asked to see me for a minute. Of course my first instinct was to panic but I was soon very relaxed once the conversation started.

For me, this promotion was so important. I used to work in media sales until I left the city to move to the country. Before I moved I loved my job, I mean LOVED it! It was a tough decision to leave, but the right one at the time. Given there isn’t much opportunity to do media sales in the country, I was out of the media industry for 2 years. When I moved back to the city I temped for a while (was the longest time in my career ever!) then I was fortunate enough to be told about this job. I applied and got it!

Although it was an entry level role and compared to what I had been doing in my previous media role, it was a huge step down but I knew I wanted it. I had missed the industry terribly and knew it was where I was meant to be. I tried the wine industry but it just didn’t feel right and given how much I love wine, that was a huge shock to the system!

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So when I took this job with lower pay and lower responsibilities, I set a goal that I would be doing more and getting paid more within the year. The thought never really crossed my mind that I would be given the opportunity within 6 months. It’s the best feeling to have your boss tell you that you are doing such a great job and they want to reward you for it. I couldn’t wipe the smile off my face. I know this is what I want to do and yesterday was just the final stamp of approval. Again, I can say that I LOVE my job and I can’t wait to see what the future holds for me.

I can’t wait to celebrate this milestone with a little wine between friends and family.

Cheers,

Jane

How my saving is going

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I wrote a post a few weeks ago about how I am going to try and save for my O/S holiday. Well, I’m not doing that great. I had a bit of a bad week just gone as my sister was here and I kind of went a bit overboard with the spending. Not ideal, given I have less than 2 months until we leave. But I honestly feel it was worth it. I’ve said before that I don’t get to see my sisters all that often, so when one comes to visit, I don’t want to waste that time doing nothing. We didn’t do anything crazy extravagant, but we did go out Friday night then went to a Aussie rules game on Saturday. It was a great weekend and worth every penny.

But from now on, I really need to avoid any weekend like that again. It’s so hard though, this Saturday I’ve got plans to have a little wine between friends at a local pub. I know I will want to spend money on wine but I’m just going to have to be sensible and stick to a budget. I can still go out and enjoy a glass or two, but that will have to be it. I just need to keep thinking about the AMAZING shopping I will do when away!
Cheers,
Jane

Tired woman are sleeping

I have a confession to make, I’m a little hung over today. Not to the point that I can’t function, but I’m a little hazy and craving chips and gravy! I don’t make a habit of being hung over at work, but yesterday we were taken  out on a loooong lunch which included a little lot wine between friends (well more work colleagues but hey, they are friends!). Then last night I went to watch my partner play darts (this requires a whole other post to explain this) and proceeded to have a few more glasses of wine. I was by no means ‘can’t handle myself drunk’ but I was pretty happy. So whilst I was on the train into work, feeling a little less ordinary, I was sitting near a group of school kids who were laughing and having a great time. It got me thinking, they have never experienced a hang over (at least I hope they haven’t, they could have not been more than 12 years old!!). I felt almost envious of them that they have never experienced that pain in their heads or that sickening feeling from drinking too much. Oh to be young and innocent again!

Cheers,

Jane

6 monthly life reviews

Having had my 6 monthly work review the other day (you can read about it here), it got me thinking. Could a 6 monthly review of our personal lives be something to consider?

 

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How often do we sit down and have an open and honest conversation about how our lives are going? Do people look at what they have achieved in the past 6 months and what they plan to achieve in the following 6 months? Is there a review form to be filled out every time that rates your skill level?

The thought of assessing my life every few months is beyond scary. What if I haven’t achieved what I set out do to? Do I have the strength to tell myself to lift my game? At work, most people have KPI’s they have to meet and if you don’t, your boss will hold you accountable. If we don’t meet our personal KPI’s, will we hold ourselves accountable? I admit that when I start a task and I don’t finish, I’m not always that accountable to myself. I can easily let it slide and push it under the rug. What if I had to face those tasks I didn’t complete and explain why I didn’t do them? Would it make me push myself more? Would I have more drive to complete what I start?

Although I find it easier to take criticism than compliments, do I really have the guts to tell myself I haven’t done a great job? I can be very hard on myself at times but it’s more when I’ve let other people down, not when I’ve let myself down. Maybe I need that 6 month review to build a better me. What if we took it that one step further and got out nearest and dearest involved every now and then. Again, the thought of having my best friend tell me where I could improve doesn’t exactly sound like a walk in the park. But what if it helped me grow as a person and I learnt something from it. On the other side, it could be an opportunity to tell me what I was doing well, reassuring me that they enjoyed a little wine between friends.

Will I start assessing my life every 6 months, who knows? Time will tell I guess. I would like to give it a go and see how I feel about it. As I’m getting older, I feel it’s time to start looking at my life and where I want it to go. Wish me luck!

Cheers,

Jane

A blog about nothing?!

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Let’s be honest, that is what my blog is about – nothing. I don’t have a specific theme, I don’t blog about one subject, I just write what I feel like. Mine is not the only blog that is about ‘nothing’. There are many blogs out there that are just people putting their thoughts onto paper. Yet these kinds of blogs are so popular. Why do we enjoy reading blogs about ‘nothing’?

It’s human nature to want to read about other people’s lives. People are nosey and like to know what is happening to you, even if you are complete stranger. Look at the celebrity phenomenon. Paparazzi make thousands of dollars on photos of celebrities because we not so famous people are willing to buy that magazine with the photo of Kim Kardashian eating a donut.

Have you ever been out walking at night and as you walk past a house with the blinds open, you have a sneaky look. No I don’t mean in a creepy, pervey kind of way. I mean you just happen to glance your eyes in the direction of their window, just to see what they are watching on TV or what your neighbours lounge room looks like. Again, it’s human nature to want to know.

I once had a year 10 English assignment where we had to speak for 15 minutes about any topic. It seemed like a relative easy assignment but I wanted to make sure I had people’s attention for the whole time. So I spoke about my life and my family. It worked! My teacher was impressed and it was him that made me realise this human behaviour. He said at the end ‘You hit the nail on the head Jane. The reason everyone was engaged for the whole 15 minutes was because you let them into your life. You took them into your private world and were open and honest, that is what keeps people interested”.  

So writing a blog about ‘nothing’ is actually a blog about ‘something’. It’s about my life, my thoughts, my private world. I want you to be a part of it and hopefully enjoy hearing all about my journey in this ride called life. Let’s all enjoy a little wine between friends and celebrate all those blogs out there that are about ‘nothing’. Hell, if a show about ‘nothing’ can become a cross-generation classic; I think we will all be fine!

Cheers,

Jane

Picture this..

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It’s Saturday afternoon and your partner calls you saying they are at the bottle shop, would I like some wine? Well of course my answer is yes but then I realise my dilemma. I LOVE Riesling, not just like it, or lust it, I actually love it. It’s my favourite wine variety and is my number one choice most times. Only problem is, my partner has no idea about wine! So asking him to pick me up a bottle (or two) of a nice Riesling, is like asking a frog to hop without hitting it’s arse. Whilst he will give it a go, it’s only going to end in tears. With this knowledge in mind, I have to come to terms with the fact that he will just have to grab a couple bottles of a trusty Sav Blanc. It may not be my darling Riesling that I so cherish, but it’s better than nothing. As having a little wine between friends is not much fun with water….!  

Cheers,

Jane

What I’ve learnt this week!

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I’m going to trial a new weekly ‘theme’ (for lack of a better word). Each weekend I want to write a post about what I’ve learnt this week. It can be as simple as learning a new shortcut key on in Excel or as big as learning a new life lesson.
The format will probably change each week, but the overall feel should be the same. I plan to use this weekly task as a way to help me appreciate my life and the little things that happen each week. It will be nice to look back at each week and have a record of the lessons I’ve learnt. So here goes week 1:

  • Cherish your family. After a work colleague lost a loved one, it got me thinking about all the important people in my life. Remember to tell the people you love how much they mean to you.
  • No matter who you are, work should never come before your real life. Just because thousands of people have paid big money to see you live on stage, doesn’t mean you should have to come to work that day. Whilst the majority of people support and agree with the decision to postpone the Rolling Stones concerts after this tragedy, I’ve unfortunately heard a few very selfish people whinge about it. Refer to the first point – family first!
  • I’m better at my job than I thought!
  • I enjoy writing, even though I have a long way to go! Not all blog posts have to be the size of an essay. When I was writing each post this week, I was so worried it wouldn’t be long enough. But guess what, its not about quantity, it’s about quality!
  • Exercise is fun! I am sure I will look back on this one day and question if I was drunk or not when I wrote it…

So there you go, turns out I learnt a few things this week. Some profound, some a little less. Either way, it’s been a pretty good week but I’m so ready for the weekend and the chance to enjoy a little wine between friends.

Cheers,

Jane