What i’ve learnt this week

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How can I explain this week? I feel like I was on a roller coaster ride at work with so many ups and downs, twists and turns that sitting here on a Saturday feels like a holiday. My job can be very stressful at times (as can most jobs) and sometimes things happen that make you want to crawl into a hole and hide. This week I learnt that by not doing that, and by facing the challenges my job throws at me, I actually become better at it. I learnt that my imagination has a way of turning tiny small problems into HUGE massive problems, resulting in me spending the night stressing about it. I learnt that by thinking logically and facing these problems with with confidence, I can actually turn it around and end the week by having solved said problems.

I also learnt that even though the recession was over 3 years ago, the market still has it’s tough times. No ones jobs is safe, no matter who you work for or what your role is. I learnt that in the space of an afternoon, you can get a phone call saying you have been let go, simply because there is not enough work. This happened to a friend of mine this week and it’s heart breaking. Going from having a secure, well paid job to nothing must be such a terrifying experience. I learnt to appreciate and be thankful for the fact that although I had some challenges this week, at least I still have a job.

This week was full of high’s and lows at work, yet i’m so happy I can sit here and enjoy a little wine between friends knowing that I still have a job to go to on Monday.

Cheers,

Jane

6 monthly life reviews

Having had my 6 monthly work review the other day (you can read about it here), it got me thinking. Could a 6 monthly review of our personal lives be something to consider?

 

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How often do we sit down and have an open and honest conversation about how our lives are going? Do people look at what they have achieved in the past 6 months and what they plan to achieve in the following 6 months? Is there a review form to be filled out every time that rates your skill level?

The thought of assessing my life every few months is beyond scary. What if I haven’t achieved what I set out do to? Do I have the strength to tell myself to lift my game? At work, most people have KPI’s they have to meet and if you don’t, your boss will hold you accountable. If we don’t meet our personal KPI’s, will we hold ourselves accountable? I admit that when I start a task and I don’t finish, I’m not always that accountable to myself. I can easily let it slide and push it under the rug. What if I had to face those tasks I didn’t complete and explain why I didn’t do them? Would it make me push myself more? Would I have more drive to complete what I start?

Although I find it easier to take criticism than compliments, do I really have the guts to tell myself I haven’t done a great job? I can be very hard on myself at times but it’s more when I’ve let other people down, not when I’ve let myself down. Maybe I need that 6 month review to build a better me. What if we took it that one step further and got out nearest and dearest involved every now and then. Again, the thought of having my best friend tell me where I could improve doesn’t exactly sound like a walk in the park. But what if it helped me grow as a person and I learnt something from it. On the other side, it could be an opportunity to tell me what I was doing well, reassuring me that they enjoyed a little wine between friends.

Will I start assessing my life every 6 months, who knows? Time will tell I guess. I would like to give it a go and see how I feel about it. As I’m getting older, I feel it’s time to start looking at my life and where I want it to go. Wish me luck!

Cheers,

Jane

What I’ve learnt this week (a day late!)

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Oh dear, I’m a day late with this! Sorry, but my weekend plans changed at the last minute. Better late than never I guess.

As I posted late last week, it was a bit of a blah week. For whatever reason, I just couldn’t be bothered doing anything. Getting up and going to work was tough, never mind writing a blog post. So to help me get out of this rut I went away on the weekend, spending time with a beautiful friend who I’ve known for 24 years but we only see each other every few months. Having a drink and a dance at the pub by the ocean has really reinvigorated me. I’m feeling like myself again. So I guess last week I learnt that taking time out and sharing a little wine between friends is so important. You can’t put a price on quality time spent with the people you love. Although I am meant to be saving, I still went out and had a good time. I learnt that sometimes you need to just relax and not stress about situations you can’t control. It sounds simple doesn’t it… ‘just relax’. For me it’s a lot easier said than done. But the way I was feeling the past week was enough to make me just throw caution to the wind and forget about life’s problems for a couple of days. I also learnt that no matter the distance between you and a friend, no matter the lack of communication you may have, when you do catch up it’s like nothing has changed. Having a friendship that just falls back into place like that is so rewarding and satisfying.

I hope to post a bit more frequently this week and hopefully have a week full of great lessons.

Cheers,

Jane

 

 

 

Missing – my motivation

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I can’t quite put my finger on it but this week I’ve been feeling very blah. I just can’t get interested I’m anything. I’ve started about 3 different posts but can’t seem to finish them. I’ve got no inspiration this week and it’s driving me nuts! It might be the weather, it could be work (dealing with end of month! Argh) or maybe I’m coming down with something. What ever the reason,  I sure hope I snap out of it soon!

Buy good news,  it’s Friday! I hope you all get the chance to enjoy a little wine between friends this weekend!

Cheers,

Jane

A blog about nothing?!

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Let’s be honest, that is what my blog is about – nothing. I don’t have a specific theme, I don’t blog about one subject, I just write what I feel like. Mine is not the only blog that is about ‘nothing’. There are many blogs out there that are just people putting their thoughts onto paper. Yet these kinds of blogs are so popular. Why do we enjoy reading blogs about ‘nothing’?

It’s human nature to want to read about other people’s lives. People are nosey and like to know what is happening to you, even if you are complete stranger. Look at the celebrity phenomenon. Paparazzi make thousands of dollars on photos of celebrities because we not so famous people are willing to buy that magazine with the photo of Kim Kardashian eating a donut.

Have you ever been out walking at night and as you walk past a house with the blinds open, you have a sneaky look. No I don’t mean in a creepy, pervey kind of way. I mean you just happen to glance your eyes in the direction of their window, just to see what they are watching on TV or what your neighbours lounge room looks like. Again, it’s human nature to want to know.

I once had a year 10 English assignment where we had to speak for 15 minutes about any topic. It seemed like a relative easy assignment but I wanted to make sure I had people’s attention for the whole time. So I spoke about my life and my family. It worked! My teacher was impressed and it was him that made me realise this human behaviour. He said at the end ‘You hit the nail on the head Jane. The reason everyone was engaged for the whole 15 minutes was because you let them into your life. You took them into your private world and were open and honest, that is what keeps people interested”.  

So writing a blog about ‘nothing’ is actually a blog about ‘something’. It’s about my life, my thoughts, my private world. I want you to be a part of it and hopefully enjoy hearing all about my journey in this ride called life. Let’s all enjoy a little wine between friends and celebrate all those blogs out there that are about ‘nothing’. Hell, if a show about ‘nothing’ can become a cross-generation classic; I think we will all be fine!

Cheers,

Jane

Picture this..

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It’s Saturday afternoon and your partner calls you saying they are at the bottle shop, would I like some wine? Well of course my answer is yes but then I realise my dilemma. I LOVE Riesling, not just like it, or lust it, I actually love it. It’s my favourite wine variety and is my number one choice most times. Only problem is, my partner has no idea about wine! So asking him to pick me up a bottle (or two) of a nice Riesling, is like asking a frog to hop without hitting it’s arse. Whilst he will give it a go, it’s only going to end in tears. With this knowledge in mind, I have to come to terms with the fact that he will just have to grab a couple bottles of a trusty Sav Blanc. It may not be my darling Riesling that I so cherish, but it’s better than nothing. As having a little wine between friends is not much fun with water….!  

Cheers,

Jane

What I’ve learnt this week!

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I’m going to trial a new weekly ‘theme’ (for lack of a better word). Each weekend I want to write a post about what I’ve learnt this week. It can be as simple as learning a new shortcut key on in Excel or as big as learning a new life lesson.
The format will probably change each week, but the overall feel should be the same. I plan to use this weekly task as a way to help me appreciate my life and the little things that happen each week. It will be nice to look back at each week and have a record of the lessons I’ve learnt. So here goes week 1:

  • Cherish your family. After a work colleague lost a loved one, it got me thinking about all the important people in my life. Remember to tell the people you love how much they mean to you.
  • No matter who you are, work should never come before your real life. Just because thousands of people have paid big money to see you live on stage, doesn’t mean you should have to come to work that day. Whilst the majority of people support and agree with the decision to postpone the Rolling Stones concerts after this tragedy, I’ve unfortunately heard a few very selfish people whinge about it. Refer to the first point – family first!
  • I’m better at my job than I thought!
  • I enjoy writing, even though I have a long way to go! Not all blog posts have to be the size of an essay. When I was writing each post this week, I was so worried it wouldn’t be long enough. But guess what, its not about quantity, it’s about quality!
  • Exercise is fun! I am sure I will look back on this one day and question if I was drunk or not when I wrote it…

So there you go, turns out I learnt a few things this week. Some profound, some a little less. Either way, it’s been a pretty good week but I’m so ready for the weekend and the chance to enjoy a little wine between friends.

Cheers,

Jane

Workplace review… phew It’s over!

I had my 6 month review today… what a relief it’s over. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t bad, In fact it was great. Turns out I’m doing a really good job, which is nice to hear. However the thought of having a workplace review is always daunting, no matter how you think you are doing. I always get nervous before a review as I don’t like the unknown.

I’ve always been like this when it comes to reviews. No matter how good a job I’ve done, I always worry for a week before my review. What if my boss has kept a list of all my mistakes and plans to hit me with them all at once? What if they rate my work completely differently to me? It’s slightly awkward when you rate your ‘attention to detail’ as ‘high standard’ and your boss has rated it as ‘needs work’…. On that note, I find it so uncomfortable to have to ‘rate’ myself. I can talk for hours about all my faults and where I need improvement, but ask me to tell you what I do well and I go blank. “I’m always on time” is hardly an achievement.

I understand why work place reviews are necessary and they have many benefits. If you are not performing in your job, you need to be told why and how. Not in a negative, ‘let’s make you feel the size of an ant’ kind of way. It has to be positive and helpful otherwise how do you learn? Lucky for me my bosses have always been helpful and given me great guidance when it came to areas of improvement. I’ve always had a boss that would prefer to mention any ‘problems’ as they occur, rather than waiting for our review. Other people are not this lucky. I had a friend who had a boss that was quite possibly the devil. Each review, her boss would sit her in a room for an hour whilst she bombarded her with every single little mistake she had made in the last 6 months. Even down to the tiniest little errors. My friend would be blind sighted as there was never any mention of these issues during the past few months. This woman could have written the book on how NOT to do a review!

Lucky for me, my review today was more of a casual catch up over coffee. So instantly I felt relaxed and at ease (great start!). The rest was just chatting about how everything was going, how I was feeling and if I had any problems. Overall it was a great catch up and I now know that I am doing a great job and everyone seems happy. Nothing like a bit of reassurance to start your Friday. So now the day is over and I can relax with a little wine between friends! Happy weekend everybody.

Cheers,
Jane

International Happiness day

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To be honest, I didn’t know this day existed. What a concept…International Happiness day! Whilst we should try and be happy every day, having an ‘international’ day that recognises the importance of being happy is brilliant.

Being happy is sometimes easier said than done. Life throws us challenges and makes us work hard, but having the courage and strength to work through those tough times and still be happy is such a triumph.

I hope you all get a chance to sit back and appreciate the little things in your life today and truly be happy! Enjoy a little wine between friends, or go to the beach, just do something that makes you happy!

Cheers,

Jane

Renovating my body

So apparently our bodies are temples. Well right now, mine is more like a 1970’s out of date fixer upper! Just like a house renovation, it’s going to take a lot of blood, sweat and tears to get this ‘temple’ into the shape it should be. To give you a bit of back ground, my relationship with exercise is a typical on again-off again roller-coaster ride. If we were a couple, we would be the dysfunctional relationship that breaks up every 2 months, only to end up back together a few weeks later. Our friends would be so immune to it, they wouldn’t even notice when we had broken up. I can’t say I enjoy exercise but I don’t exactly hate it. Unfortunately though, I have one of those bodies that can’t just eat well and be fit and healthy. I need to exercise to see results. The way I see it, exercise is like having another job. To get the body I want, I have to work at it.

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I can get bored easily, so I need to mix up my workouts. I also can’t justify spending money on a gym membership when I have a huge array of walking tracks and parks that I can use for free. Plus I am a fan of a good ol’ workout DVD (Jane Fonda eat ya heart out). I would have purchased almost 10 different exercise DVD’s in the last few years. Some I will admit have never been played. Others I have used on rotation for about 3 weeks until I get bored and lose interest.

To add insult to injury, I’m not a morning person so I don’t exercise until I get home from work. Herein lies the problem. Most nights I am not home until after 6:30 and whilst my partner is amazing, I can’t always expect him to cook dinner every night. So I either do my hour’s exercise as soon as I get home, which means I start cooking at 7:30ish so we are eating after 8. Or I cook and eat first then try and exercise on a full stomach. Either way I feel like I am losing. Plus after a long day at work, all I want to do is sit down on the couch with a nice glass of wine and relax.

So by now you have probably realised I have very little motivation for exercising. I am really committed for 2 or so weeks, then something will happen and I just fall of the wagon. So my goal is to not fall and stay motivated. This motivation doesn’t come from wanting to be ‘skinny’, it is all about being healthy. I am very realistic about my body shape and how I have real hips that aren’t going anywhere. For me it’s more about being able to walk up the stairs at work and not feel short of breath. Of course I want to look good in my clothes but it’s not about a number for me. I don’t want to get down to a certain weight, I just want to feel and look better.

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Losing these few kgs (okay 10) that I so desperately want to get rid of requires me to be motivated. I’m off on a holiday in under 3 months, this is now my motivation to get started. I have a wedding whilst I’m away and I want to make sure I look fit and healthy and let’s face it, a little bit sexy! I also want to be able to walk around exploring new places all day without feeling tired and buggered. So today folks I got up at 6am and exercised! Yes I did it and it felt so good. Admittedly it was a pretty tame workout but I feel it’s a start. I will lose this weight, I will become healthier and I will become a better me…… let’s just hope I keep up that positive attitude for longer than 2 weeks. I will endeavour to keep you updated about how I’m going, including confessing when I do feel like I ‘slip’. I figure if I admit when I fall, I will have the strength to pick myself up again. But never fear, I will still allow myself to enjoy a little wine between friends, for what is life without a little vino!

Cheers,

Jane